It's hard for me to look forward to the holidays...

I'm having a hard time looking forward to the holidays suddenly. Christmas decorations are going up in the stores, some even went up before Halloween. Now Halloween is over, Thanksgiving is coming up and suddenly it's hard for me not to be sad. I'm having to work at it.

Whenever someone asks me how I'm doing I try to always say "I'm doing good." And that's usually true, whether I feel good physically or emotionally or not, my spirit is usually okay. I know the kind of life Tim has now and in some ways I'm very jealous. He has no worries and no pain. He has so many friends and family to spend time with, besides having Father God, Jesus, and Holy Spirit to "bum around with." And he has quite a lot to do, varied activities and assignments that are fascinating and wonderful.

Last year this time Tim was having more and more trouble physically, his heart and breathing were giving him more and more problems, and although he tried really hard to always be upbeat and cheerful, I knew he didn't feel good. He developed a cold, unlike him, in the week before Thanksgiving. That turned into bronchitis, then severe congestive heart failure and he was admitted to the hospital the day before Thanksgiving. He actually had a heart attack in the ER waiting to be admitted.

I do not want to spend these days remembering all of that. I want to think about how he is NOW, who he is with NOW, what he is doing NOW, and most of the time I succeed. It helps that I can talk to him, and the Lord lets me know some of Tim's activities these days.

Yesterday afternoon I went to visit Harold for a little while, for an update on his recent photography workshop / trip to the Outer Banks. Afterwards I went and took a couple of photos of trees around town that I liked, then drove to the cemetery and took several photos of the newest flowers (fall colors) I'd put in the vase. I could just hear Tim reiterating that he doesn't like that place!

Recently I made him a promise not to spend much time there, and not to spend much money on flowers in the future. Maybe just when the seasons change I can change the main colors of the arrangement, use the basic greenery and just add a few new ones each time. Eventually, maybe give up even doing that. We'll see.

I promised Angie that I would join the Cox family for Thanksgiving dinner the Saturday after Thanksgiving. Thanksgiving dinner I will be at Shelby's. I am trying not to remember last year's miserable holidays and obey the Lord's - and Tim's - reminders to look forward, not back.